Friday, September 21, 2012

Fun Fridays: Gone with the Wind Exhibit

Vivien Leigh wore this dress during the attack at Shantytown scene in Gone
with the Wind.
It is featured in the exhibit Real to Reel: The Making of Gone with the Wind. Image from the N.C. Museum of History.
Frankly my dear . . . How can you not love this?! 

I have not gotten out there to see it yet, but I guarantee to you I will!  It is running through January 13th at the North Carolina Museum of History in Raleigh (which I interned at when I was in college, by the way!)

Tonight's Friday Feature:

Exhibit Reception: Real to Reel: The Making of Gone with the Wind
Friday, Sept. 21
7–10 p.m.
$50 ($40 members)
http://ncmuseumofhistory.org/film/index.html

Go check it out and have fun!

Happy Friday Everyone!
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Thoughts on Thursdays: 21st Century Office

What do you think - Is this at home or at work?
This is an interesting one for me, and probably for anyone who works and has small children.  There is a push, a movement, an "enlightened desire" to move into this new looking office environment.  With today's technology, we are constantly connected . . . to everything.  I don't know about you, but I literally wake up to my iPhone (because I use it for my alarm), and I automatically (sometimes before I even actually open my eyes) start checking my email.  I've yelled at myself a lot about this because, seriously, what am I going to do with email information at 5:30 in the morning?  Especially since I checked it at midnight right before I went to bed!

On the bus in to work, I am answering emails about kids' soccer, upcoming work meetings, legal matters.  While adding sugar to my tea at the library coffee shop, I am answering phone calls, making appointments and looking at my calendar for the day.

When I get to my office, I crank up all my systems and begin . .  . doing pretty much the same thing.  But I may also pick up the phone and confirm the dentist appointment for my youngest, make a call into the oldest's teacher to discuss last nights' homework, and order the cereal we love on Amazon.com (which rocks by the way).

What's my point?  There is a blurred line between work and home when you are a working parent.  The 9-5 box no longer really defines what I do at the office or what I do at home.  Work places are trying to understand this, and TRYING to make room for the new blurry work hours and needs of a working mom . . . but it still has a long way to go.

Case in point.  Where I work, our new guy has repeatedly touted that we are a "21st Century Office."  I love this idea!  He has let us know that he "understands our laptops are our office", that sometimes we can be "somewhere else, but still at work", and that we do not need to "punch the clock" to demonstrate our effectiveness.  GREAT!  HOORAY!  "If you can't make it in and you plan to do work offsite, just make sure we know where you are and generally what you're working on.  I don't want to feel like I'm looking for detailed intenaries."

So the first time I needed to stay home due to a pre-school closing, I popped an email off to the new guy and actually gave more detail than he had indicated he needed, because that's what I'm used to from former work places.  I explained how many hours I'd be working extra each day this week from home and specifically what I would be working on (almost in detail) in order to make up for the time I'd be home.  An hour later I got an email back stating, "Oh I totally understand your need to work from home.  Can you please tell me specifically the hours you are working and the specific outcomes of your work for each time frame.  Thanks!"

What?

21st Century Office?

Am I complaining?  Not really.  I do wonder if the five emails from coworkers the previous week stating "Working from home tomorrow, see you later!" (Literally) were met with the same request for more specific details, or if it was the fact that I PROVIDED details that made me subject to more specific questioning.

Anyway, it's just an interesting thought.  I've worked in several places where working from home is possible, and put out there as an option, but then the manager can't really let go of the need to minutely micro-manage, instead of just allowing the work to be done.  And I understand that some people just can't work from home.  I'm not one of those people.  While I can work from home, and am actually much more productive when I do, I prefer to come in to an office.  I just feel like most managers would rather see you sitting at a desk for 8 hours, even if you're not really doing anything, than know that you were at home, and took only 2 hours to complete the work that others would have taken a week to do.  Most managers still want the TIME more than they really want the productivity.

My two cents.  Thoughts?
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Wednesday, September 19, 2012

I Wonder . . . Wednesday: Protective Orders


There's a lot I could say about this issue, but I'm in a bit of a mood today and just wanted to get the point across.

I wonder . . . when judges will finally STOP a lawyer or spouse from continuing the abuse in court rooms by allowing them to righteously and unabashedly and repeatedly declare while pointing accusing fingers at the victim and scoffing:
  • "It's not like I broke her arm or something."
  • "Yes I said I'd kill her, but what I really meant was how much I loved her."
  • "Maybe if he beat her to death, then I could understand." 
  • "Protective orders are only for violence.  There's no violence here.  I mean where were the hospital records of broken bones and bruised faces?!"
  • "It was just a technical violation."
  • "So he threw her down the stairs.  It's not like she split her head open and died."
  • "Just because he abused the mother, doesn't mean the kids were harmed."
  • "This is just another way for her to try to alienate the father and prevent visitation."
Domestic abuse comes in many forms.  Physical violence is only one side of a multi-faceted increasing problem in our society.  Very often the psychological and sexual abuses are more deeply damaging and destructive because they cannot be seen on the face or worn like a cast.  Society will not acknowledge the abuse because it is "hidden" and the victims continue to be abused until finally, all the threats made above become reality, and the victim dies.

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